Post by Drummer16354 on Oct 19, 2005 19:02:57 GMT -5
Ok, today my fiance got this email from her dad. Bear in mind that before this he hasn't even replied to her and hasn't seen her in the past four years at all. Also, he has never married her mom, and he hasn't helped her out with college.
Here is the email. Now feel free to make ANY corrections.
Heather,
I was thinking about this the last two days. You and Kevin need to think this out thoroughly from all aspect and more.
Yes, you may be in love, but all studies from the experts repeatedly say it takes 18-24 months to really know someone well enough to marry and truely love. Six Month isn't long enough. Trust me on this... I've been threw 94, what I thought were "in-loves" but were only infaturations. Two ended up in quick divorces after 2 years of "wedded bliss" ha!
Look at the practical side. You are 19. You are a sophmore in college with 2 1/2 years to go till graduation. Love doesn't put food on the table. Education and a good job does. Without this college degree, you will end up like your mother almost certainly. You promised me years back not to repeat the cycle
and not to end up in her shoes. She had for the last 20 years a rough, hard, and difficult life. She got married at around 20. Pregnant same time. This will almost certainly happen to you if you go through with this marriage at THIS TIME.
Also, and just as importantly, If grandma or grandpa hear about this, or Uncle Joe..... All funding for your school and room are gone, instantly. They did this to me for a year when they heard that Teresa came and stay the weekend at my trailer at State Penn. I had to sell plasma twice a week to by food. They will do this, and you will not be able to hide it. Sooner or later they will find out.
My advise to you and Kevin. Continue dating, don't get pregnant, keep your grades up. Don't get rapped around the love so much that it affects your schooling. This happened to me on my last two years at PSU. I ended up graduating with a 2.00 GPA because my newer girlfriend Michelle thought we were adults and that school was only a secondary factor.
If you really love each other, think of your future , how it will be so much easier with two well paying jobs that a college degree will bring. Just keep of dating, one and only to each other....
Then after graduation, set a date to wed as your careers are developing.
Please read this to Kevin, Heather. It makes sense. You two are looking through rose colored glasses right now. I know, I've been there... Take them off and see the reality of your plan.
I am sooo glad I didn't marry Michelle or Teresa. I'd be stuck in Pittsburgh pumping gas all my life.
I do not approve of your plan. But I love you. Do NOT , tell Uncle Joe . He will laugh at you and then tell Grandpa and the money will stop. It will crush their dream they have of you.
Do the smart thing Heather. There's no need to take this relationship to the highest level after only 6 months, even if you are pregnant now. There is no reason to marry yet. Continue dating Kevin but finish school first.
Are you pregnant? Tell me.
Here is the email. Now feel free to make ANY corrections.
Heather,
I was thinking about this the last two days. You and Kevin need to think this out thoroughly from all aspect and more.
Yes, you may be in love, but all studies from the experts repeatedly say it takes 18-24 months to really know someone well enough to marry and truely love. Six Month isn't long enough. Trust me on this... I've been threw 94, what I thought were "in-loves" but were only infaturations. Two ended up in quick divorces after 2 years of "wedded bliss" ha!
Look at the practical side. You are 19. You are a sophmore in college with 2 1/2 years to go till graduation. Love doesn't put food on the table. Education and a good job does. Without this college degree, you will end up like your mother almost certainly. You promised me years back not to repeat the cycle
and not to end up in her shoes. She had for the last 20 years a rough, hard, and difficult life. She got married at around 20. Pregnant same time. This will almost certainly happen to you if you go through with this marriage at THIS TIME.
Also, and just as importantly, If grandma or grandpa hear about this, or Uncle Joe..... All funding for your school and room are gone, instantly. They did this to me for a year when they heard that Teresa came and stay the weekend at my trailer at State Penn. I had to sell plasma twice a week to by food. They will do this, and you will not be able to hide it. Sooner or later they will find out.
My advise to you and Kevin. Continue dating, don't get pregnant, keep your grades up. Don't get rapped around the love so much that it affects your schooling. This happened to me on my last two years at PSU. I ended up graduating with a 2.00 GPA because my newer girlfriend Michelle thought we were adults and that school was only a secondary factor.
If you really love each other, think of your future , how it will be so much easier with two well paying jobs that a college degree will bring. Just keep of dating, one and only to each other....
Then after graduation, set a date to wed as your careers are developing.
Please read this to Kevin, Heather. It makes sense. You two are looking through rose colored glasses right now. I know, I've been there... Take them off and see the reality of your plan.
I am sooo glad I didn't marry Michelle or Teresa. I'd be stuck in Pittsburgh pumping gas all my life.
I do not approve of your plan. But I love you. Do NOT , tell Uncle Joe . He will laugh at you and then tell Grandpa and the money will stop. It will crush their dream they have of you.
Do the smart thing Heather. There's no need to take this relationship to the highest level after only 6 months, even if you are pregnant now. There is no reason to marry yet. Continue dating Kevin but finish school first.
Are you pregnant? Tell me.
